Finding comfort

Last night I attended a virtual panel discussion. The topic was mostly surrounding how to best present yourself. One participant brought up the idea of always dressing comfortable. They stated that this idea of comfort then was reflected on and transferred to there overall comfort and confidence level. As I pondered this idea, I believed it made sense. I feel a rush of confidence when I put on my clothes for JiuJitsu training. As I thought about it further, I realized that I still get nervous in these clothes unless I am actively training. Aside from JiuJitsu, I often get nervous in social situations where I’m observing/not actively engaging/doing something. The best thing for me in a social situation is food because I can engage with eating, rather then nervously attempting to engage in conversation. The nerves come from myself questioning my ability to engage or be on the same wave-length with others. I feel that I have to change my way of thinking from “I’ll bring stuff to the table” to “I’m already at the table”. If you know you are able to perform on the same level as everyone else, you’re at the table, and nobody can take that sense of self away from you. EyeRoll4 the ability to feel comfort and belong.